Wednesday, November 28, 2007

Is it the looks or the heart that matters?

Down under in Australia, we just had a Federal election last Saturday. The people has decided to vote the 11.5 year-old Liberal-National Coalition Government out and Kevin Rudd and his team in the Australian Labor Party has been elected as the new Government to lead Australia. It has been a controversial election which gave an unprecedented result of the Australian people voting a government out of office in times where the country was growing modestly and unemployment is at multi-decade lows.

During lunch today, I have asked my friend whether she was satisfied with the election results. She told me that she was pleased with the result. She was very impressed with Prime Minister-elect Rudd's incoming speech where he declared victory. Rudd succinctly addressed all aspects that he needed to address. It was spot on.

My view, on the other hand, was much the opposite. Pessimist, you may call me, but I found the speech more or less the same as the Labor Party's campaign: It was too good to be true. It was too perfect to expect it will happen in reality. His speech was scripted so there was no room for error. Outgoing Prime Minister John Howard's exiting speech, on the other hand was not scripted at all. It was very touching. Every sentence of his speech came from the 33 years of political experience, but more importantly, it came from the heart. Many people who I have spoken about this agreed that if he spoke from the heart as he did in his outgoing speech throughout the campaign, there would be a much greater chance of him winning, as it would actually reach out and touch every voter's heart.

My friend then questioned me: isn't it good that the whole thing about having a 'facade' and showing only the good side supposed to be better? She argued that there was no need to show the voter the dirty and messy side. The average voter does not need to know what happens behind the closed doors. They can have their fights any way they want but as long as they have that good image to represent the people of Australia, then its fine.

I then made remarks along the lines of saying voting in politics is somewhat like choosing a boyfriend (or girlfriend for guys reading this). What is more important is not the looks, but really the things that reflect their heart. No point choosing a guy/girl with very impressive looks and not realising that their intentions is to cheat on you (I would like to clarify though, that I have no intentions to say our new Government has intentions to cheat on us). Likewise in politics, you would not like to choose a leader that merely has the perfect 'facade' and have nothing coming out from the brain. You would want the wonderful appearance to be a fruit of the leader's good heart and fundamental experience.

Likewise, God has made it clear how critical He is when it comes to choosing His people at the end of the day. He does not choose people that merely look good, but He chooses those who has a heart for Him . The Pharisees of Jesus' day were respectable religious leaders who would do everthing that looked religiously correct in front of people. Throughout time, rather to do what is religiously correct in reverence of God, they did it to enjoy the social status and recognition (Matthew 23:6-7). They had a wonderful image, but Jesus went right to his most central criticism at Matthew 23:25-28 (ESV):

25"Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you clean the outside of the cup and the plate, but inside they are full of greed and self-indulgence. 26You blind Pharisee! First clean the inside of the cup and the plate, that the outside also may be clean.
27 "Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs, which outwardly appear beautiful, but within are full of dead people's bones and all uncleanness. 28So you also outwardly appear righteous to others, but within you are full of hypocrisy and lawlessness.

Sunday, November 25, 2007

Jesus vs Parents

I used to have a lot to talk about with my mum (who has yet to submit her life to Christ) and we would be able to talk about all sorts of things before I became a Christian. But ever since I have become a Christian, conversations turn sour when it comes to a conversation about religion generally. She does not hate religion generally, but because I have made my position clear, as a Christian, in rejecting other religions that purport to preach the Truth, she really dislikes me having any kind of in-depth involvement in any activities that has any associations with Christianity.

I believe her negative attitude towards my faith is because prior to myself becoming a Christian, I would not have such strong opposing and critical views on anything, let alone the sensitive topic of religion! I would just silently disagree, if that is what it takes to make everyone happy. But no, nowadays, I would make my position quite clear in what I believe in (hopefully in most circumstances, in a passive but succinct way).

As I grew spiritually, I can view that the Holy Spirit has begun working within me and I feel my values have begun to change too. Although this does not mean I am in any way more perfect or more superior than anybody else, I begin to see that what I believed to be good before is not enough in God's eyes.

There are moments where I would make a decision based on the teachings of the bible and mum and dad would subsequently ask why couldn't I have been less honest so I could protect myself a bit more in such a cold-blooded commercial world? In those circumstances where I would just love to answer 'because the bible teaches us not to cheat and God assures that He has plans for the righteous', I would refrain from introducing God into our conversation so that we would not strain our relationships, because they would simply dismiss my justifications and say I am inexperienced and naive, and most importantly, they would be infuriated if I said my God could somehow pull "magical tricks" to fix up my naivety.

I soon faced a struggle. Although I wanted to tell my parents everything I felt deep within me, but yet I knew that if I would do so, it would be just sour the relationship. Soon I began to only tell them what I believed they would be pleased to hear. However, my retraction in saying what I feel from the heart has slowly made them feel that I am not sharing everything that I think and believe with them. I believe that they sense this distancing without really wanting to find a resolution to this problem.

My friend is plagued with similar problems (if not, a worser scenario). Like myself, her mother is a Buddhist. Her retraction in refraining from sharing certain views with her mum has left her mum asking one night whether this 'deterioration' is because she felt her parents does not love her anymore. Starkingly, this has been a question asked by my parents as well. They somehow feel that we do not feel their love anymore if we no longer share what we think and feel deep within ourselves.

Good and responsible parents spend all their time and effort to love and nurture their children. They try to teach their children to the best of their knowledge so that they will not get hurt in such a dangerous world. Perhaps they get anxious and helpless if they see their children slowly unlearn what they have taught, and perhaps even get angry if they see religion tearing the foundations of the parents' teachings apart.

But if a person is serious about believing in Jesus so he may submitting himself to Christ, there is no two ways about it when it comes to living in the Truth by being a follower of Christ. We just have to accept the fact that we cannot have the good of both worlds and find some position of compromise. In Matthew 10:34-39 (ESV), Jesus teaches us:
Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. 35 For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. 36 And a person's enemies will be those of his own household. 37 Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. 38 And whoever does not take his cross and follow me is not worthy of me. 39 ch. 16:25; Mark 8:35; Luke 9:24; 17:33; John 12:25 Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.
Obviously though, this does not warrant us to dishonour, abandon or neglect our parents (Colossians 3:20)